Still, navigating the world of online dating can definitely be tricky—what kind of message is clever, but not creepy?What the hell are you supposed to say about yourself in your profile? [pagebreak] OUT-OF-TOWN AND OUT OF TOUCH The scenario: “A guy sent me a message saying that he wanted to meet up for a drink, but when I asked when he was free, he said he was ‘going out of town’ for the next two weeks and that we should schedule something after.” — Andrea, 31 The problem..the solution: If you tell a girl you’re “going out of town,” she’s going to assume you’re busy dating other women.Ol' Wang's name handle - 'good at understanding people' - may in part have had some bearing on the awkward situation that later arose. That one-line description drew an otherwise seemingly happily married person towards this person she felt she could share her feelings with.That said, this online 'relationship' started like so many others: Lili and Old Wang lied to each other, exchanged fake photographs, tried to chat naked with one another and, when that failed, they set up a meeting in a hotel room.After the jump, some things dudes need to stop doing if they want to improve their luck online. That being said: I’ve found emoticons, “hi,” or “you’re hot” to be overused. In two weeks, I’ve received more than 20 messages that say nothing more. Let me be frank with you: Women see these messages and delete them immediately. The other kind of first messages I’ve gotten a bunch of are the ones with a reference to or question about something I’ve written in my profile. The best kind of message to receive is one that indicates that you have something in common, shows your personality or sense of humor and expresses interest in getting together.
We say this, because according to Chinese news blog China SMACK it actually happened. Reportedly, a 57-year-old man called Old Wang (a clear full name purposely withheld, we think) met a girl named Lili in an online chatroom.
In a line: this perfect web (pun, unintentional) of beautifully laid out lies helped prepare the stage for the coup de grace after which it all came crashing down.
, like, “a guy told me he was looking for a girlfriend by next year so he’d have someone to split rent with.” Then there was the charmer who told his date about the time he “got wasted, peed and mopped it up with his clothes, and then wore them.” Um, yeah., we’d like to assume you know better than to make mistakes like these.
I like to read, so this could work.” Good first messages come so few and far between that its likely you will get a date just for writing one. Describing themselves as “always smiling” or “up for anything.” The Online Golden Rule should be: If you don’t have anything original to say, don’t say anything at all. If we can’t see what you look like, we are going to be hard pressed to agree to meet you for coffee.
As lame as you might feel doing it, have a friend take a clear (as in NOT blurry) picture of you so we can see what you really look like right NOW (not 10 years ago when you were on a skiing trip). I know online dating is like shopping, and you want to make sure you are purchasing something you actually , but when it comes to online dating, it’s impossible to be sure. When I see that you’ve viewed my profile 16 times without writing me, I’m already wondering …