While you may be shocked that this has happened-no one is more shocked than your adult children.
So thrilled with this new relationship, you cannot imagine that everyone will not feel the same excitement.
Now you find yourself sleepless, flushed, and unable to think of anything else.
Once it may have seemed unimaginable- but here you are middle-aged and head over heels in love like a teenager.
Here’s the problem…and your adult children are on a different time line with regard to your healing process.
The connection with a new person helps diminish your loss and pain in a very substantial way.
Generation Xers are beginning to turn the corner, midway between their teens and retirement.
And the Boomer Generation is unwilling to waste precious time with regrets or feeling sorry for themselves. George Bonanno, a psychology professor at Columbia University who studies grief, explains that most surviving spouses initially oscillate between periods of deep sadness and distress and recalling good moments of laughter and joy. When asked what she wishes her mom would do differently while dating, Rachel, a smart young graduate student, replied, “I wish she would recognize her own impulsivity and emotional rollercoaster.She does and says things without recognizing that to some extent our whole family is dating this guy. remembers the conversation she had with her two sons following one of their regular visits with herex-husband.Both boys were brimming with news about Daddy's new friend, Joanne.