So there really is no hard and fast rule here – but there are some things you should think about before getting more deeply involved with someone in recovery.
And if you do decide to date someone with a history of drug or alcohol use, there are a number of signs you must watch out for in order to make sure your new partner is living up to his or her promises of sobriety.
Address any concerns and stay focused on developing a relationship that suits everyone’s needs.
Past challenges should not define a person in a dating relationship, instead focus energy on someone who lets the past positively impact the future.
For others, one soured relationship can trigger a surge of dysfunctional thoughts and behaviors, eventually leading to relapse.
Is your recovery solid enough to withstand a relationship?
Go to the movies, take a walk in the park, go skiing together, but slow down and give the intimacy a chance to develop. According to Milrod, the most important foundation is simply that “sobriety needs to be a priority.Recovering substance abusers often possess excellent attributes that are forged by the intensity of their personal experiences.They are often very compassionate and non-judgmental in their relations with others, will not shy away from confronting difficult problems head on, and will usually be right there to help those they love through their own darkest hours.“'Two sickies don’t make a welly,’ my 80-year-old sponsor used to say.” According to James, a 33-year-old photographer from Los Angeles who’s been sober for eight years, when he first came to AA he listened to what his sponsor told him and religiously avoided dating women in the program.He didn’t date anyone at all for the first six months—he was in a Salvation Army men’s rehab anyway, so it wasn't like he had much of a choice.