Let me paint you a picture of how this convo is inevitably going to go:“Oh man, I’m so tired.”“Haha, am I that boring? Here’s a friendly tip from me to you: If you feel the need to bring up your ex on a date, you’re not over them enough to be on said date. No matter what your political views are, the political state of our nation right now is sad.”The fact that you were late was already annoying enough. People don’t want to think about it when they’re trying to have a PLEASANT and HAPPY experience.Asking questions during a phone conversation isn’t something you do randomly. Asking the right questions and in the right order can make a lasting impression and can make sure you get the date.It’s also an essential part of being a great conversationalist.Everyone has a past, and no one has control over where they’re born and raised.Sure, you might discover some similarities and learning a person’s origin might explain a few things about his/her personality, but asking someone where they want to be in the future gives you insight into their hopes, dreams and passions.Particularly if you met a girl in a club or in a bar, in which case you really know absolutely nothing about them.
After all, the key to a good date is relaxed conversation, and the last thing you want is to recreate the beginning of this scene from But whether you're trying to fill an awkward silence or just trying to get to know your date better, we have you covered.It’s difficult to strike a balance of genuine conversation while still fishing for specific intel on how compatible you are, and it leaves a lot of us with a rolodex of obvious, cliché questions.And a general rule of thumb: If you’re feeling bored with your own conversation, chances are your date is, too.Don’t waste EVEN MORE of your date’s time trying to explain to her how bad the traffic was that made you so incredibly late. Save your sad thoughts for when you’re at home alone, listening to Adele and crying about the state of our nation.Or maybe you managed to make it to the date on time DESPITE all of the bumper-to-bumper traffic that was working against you. If you even think about bringing this up, odds are, you are a douche who’s probably going to manage to ruin this date in some other way, so I don’t know if this is even worth mentioning.