Codependents habitually find themselves on a “dance floor” attracted to partners who are a perfect counter-match to their uniquely passive, submissive and acquiescent dance style.
As natural followers in their relationship dance, codependents are passive and accommodating dance partners. Codependents find narcissistic dance partners deeply appealing.
My friend said I was too much like a sister, and he couldn't continue. I worried about how that incident would affect our friendship.
Little did I know my worries would extend far beyond that concern.
I was thinking that I'd probably never go on another date, or get a boyfriend for that matter, and I'd certainly never have sex again.
The nurse who examined me revealed that she had herpes and said it was no big deal.
The message was, “Because you are worthless and unlovable, I will not care for you”.
This kind of neglect and early loss creates low self-esteem and exaggerated longing. Love Addicts have enormous fear about being able to connect emotionally.
Fantasies of being rescued or being the rescuer abound.
I didn’t want to mention it for the same reason that Tom didn’t want to mention it in his profile: because it’s irrelevant to anything that makes him a good accountant, husband, or father. He’s just been confronted with a very ugly reality that has shaken his confidence in people.
Yet his height defines him, since it has prevented otherwise interested women from being interested in him over the course of his entire life. Okay, I’m kidding about the last part, but only because I’m so serious about the rest of this. And even though we had good initial results, the fact remains, empirically: women don’t want short men.
Underneath all of this is both a fear of abandonment and a fear of healthy intimacy, even if they pretend to look for it.
When codependent corrects behavior, they can manage their life. ” Love Addiction like other addictive processes is an obsessive-compulsive process used to relieve or medicate intolerable reality.” Love Addicts did not bond well with their original caregivers when they were young children, experiencing a serious sense of abandonment.