Pick an activity where you won’t have to talk the entire time, like a movie or a sporting event, Kalish says. “The longer you go,” Kalish says, “the more problems you run into.” It should be a no-brainer to avoid thumbing your smartphone during the date. You miss out on the body language and facial cues that will give you a better idea of how she really feels.
If you’re not a talker, think up a list of possible topics -- TV shows, music, school -- before the date, Piorkowski says. “With texting and email, all you get is words,” Piorkowski says.
Never empty your glass – You might be shaking like a leaf and nothing would settle your nerves more than to knock back the glass of wine on your table, but trust me, it’s not worth it.
If you want to stay in control of the date and keep him interested then take it easy and don’t overindulge.
“All men have something they need to accomplish that makes them feel like they’re on track and that their life is worth living,” says dating coach Lauren Frances, author of . But if she makes too much of an effort—with every guy in a ten mile radius—watch your back.
And you don’t want every guy in town to be ogling her, right?
“She can’t be the end-all be-all,” Piorkowski says. Not by email or text and certainly not over social media. “At least on the phone, she won’t be embarrassed.” Letting her down respectfully makes the breakup easier on you and her, and it makes you look like a good guy.
This goes beyond the (hopefully) obvious steps of bathing and using deodorant, which are important. That way you at least get a clue from the tone of her voice.
If you’re chatty by nature, be sure to give her a chance to speak.
Stay involved with your sports team or your after-school clubs. But how you handle the end of a relationship can be just as important as how you handled the beginning. On the other hand, if you do the breaking up, do it respectfully. “It’s a bit colder in a way, but it’s safer for her,” Kalish says.
Many people may also be shy about their appearance.
You may not be 6ft tall with a 6-pack, but it’s more attractive to a woman to show that you’re comfortable in your own skin and happy being you. Don’t do all the talking On your date, make sure you don’t do all the talking.